What do you do when everything you’ve worked hard for seems to be falling apart? What do you do when everybody that you love and care about the most seems to suddenly want nothing to do with you? What do you do when nothing seems to be going right in your life and all you want to do is give up?
I think we all experience something similar to this from time to time. You feel like you have finally figured out the right way to get things done or you feel like you have the right people in your life and everything seems to be progressing well. And then… all of a sudden… something comes out of left field. You’re lost. You’re confused. Your mind starts working overtime trying to come up with an answer, but you’re left frustrated.
I’ve been through this several times. I know it might happen again in the future. One thing that I’ve learned is that tough situations come and go. The only thing that we can control is our response to these situations.
In the questions that I asked above, the word “seem” is present a few times. I’ve learned that when things aren’t going well and we don’t have an answer, we go by what things seem like. We start to assume, worry, and fear what is happening or what may/may not be happening. This causes anxiety, hurt, and can even make you sick. But in these times, we have to respond differently. Fear will make you assume and start to react. You start to make decisions based in fear and you could lose the very thing that you think you’re working hard to keep.
When things seems to be falling apart, people begin to distance themselves, things don’t seem to be going right, and you begin to feel stressed or anxious, stop. Like, literally stop. You have to stop and pray, journal, or vent to a friend that you can trust. I suggest all three, honestly. Praying allows you to give all of these cares, worries, and stressful situations over to God. You can trust Him with them because He sees what we can’t see and can take care of all of it. Nothing is too big for Him and he cares about even the things we think are too small to come to Him with. Journaling helps me to sort my thoughts and feelings out on paper. It’s a place where I can leave my thoughts and feelings and even come up with a solution for how to move forward. Venting to a friend allows you to release to a person that cares for you and they may also have some great advice for you to help you push forward. Once these things are completed, DO NOT go back. The situation may not be “fixed” but once you’ve removed the fear and anxiety, don’t go back and pick it up. That won’t change the situation and it is counterproductive. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Replace extra amounts of time with positive activities that you have been putting off. Replace negative energy with positive and productive energy that will push you forward and energize you. You will feel better and you will begin to see these situations working themselves out.
Never speak against your desires. Meaning, if you want a job but feel like you had a bad interview, choose to speak positively. Thank God for the blessing of having the opportunity to interview. When you feel like everything is gone or the people you care about the most have left you, focus on the good. Begin to be grateful for the things and people that you do have. Make a list and thank God for them. You will quickly realize that you are extremely blessed.
Be grateful for small beginnings. These give you hope. I am really trusting God with a couple of situations in my own life. I had a great beginning with both situations, but I’ve come across a rough patch. But what keeps me moving is that I was blessed to have a great beginning in both situations. My foot is in the door and I am so blessed to even have those opportunities. So while things seem to be at a standstill, I thank God for what I actually have. I had to stop myself and recognize that there is a lot of good in both situations and before I know it, I will see major moves being made. So for now, I take things one day at a time. I can’t worry about a day that I haven’t seen yet and I can’t waste the current days’ time focusing on days and situations that don’t even exist.
Spend every day becoming a better you and being a blessing to at least one person. Do you best in everything that you attempt to do with the days that you are given and choose to have an attitude of gratitude and a joyful heart. Some days are tough. I have some extremely tough days in my short life. But, if I could go back to some of them, I would pick myself up, recognize all of the great things that I do have, and press forward so that I didn’t waste so many days having pity parties. Each of us can be great. We have to focus on what’s important, be content with our blessings, trust God to take care of all of our needs and desires, and strive for the best each and every day.
That’s my rant for the day. It’s pretty random and isn’t organized, but that’s how my mind works sometimes. LoL
Be blessed. Be a blessing. Be thankful. Give thanks. Make the best of every single day that you are blessed to see. I promise, you have so much to grateful for and so much to give.
Just my random thoughts.
Peace.
A Casual Thinker 